Thank you to everyone who gave us input on what our first topic post should be! We are going to kick things off with some of the latest happenings going on at my house…We’ve been going through a phase lately, and that phase is dad is way more interesting than mom, cooler to hang out with and by far the best snuggler out of the two of us.
It wasn’t really bothering me. I mean, my husband has always been the cooler one in our relationship. He’s naturally a people person and is so good at making connections with others. But one day, it got to me. It started with the most interesting combination of screaming “Daaa!!” and sobbing after I had to explain to her that daddy was working from home and we needed to give him some space…and it ended with a “bye-bye” and a handwave in my face before turning into my husband’s shoulder for a comfortable snuggle after our bedtime prayers.
That little wave caused a bit of a pang in my heart. I mean, I love to snuggle. Yes, my shoulder is not nearly as comfy as my husband’s, and okay, maybe trying to get comfortable on top of a growing baby bump isn’t that ideal for a toddler. But, to be waved off? Not even considered? Ouch.
That night I found myself repeating a few phrases while I nursed my invisible mommy wounds:
- She’s just a toddler and doesn’t understand that she might have hurt your feelings.
- Her dad is traveling a lot, so seeing him is more exciting. She gets to see you every day, while that isn’t necessarily guaranteed with him.
- Take advantage of this alone time, you’re getting a few free moments to do whatever you want (even if that just means you’re laying in bed).
- This is a phase, and it isn’t personal.
- Remember how she still runs to you when she gets scared or startled? She knows that you’ll always be there if she needs you.
- Every once in a while she does still ask for you to snuggle with her at night. Cherish those moments.
I can imagine this attachment thing gets harder as your kids get older, but I am grateful that I had these thoughts the other day because they certainly helped then…and they’ll probably help in the future, too.
Any experienced or new moms out there going through something similar? What do you do when this happens? I would love to hear your thoughts!